March 8th: what does it take to make a friend?
This prompt is phrased quite oddly to me if I'm going to be honest. Do you mean 'what does it take for me to be someone's friend' or 'what does it take on someone's else's behalf to be my friend'? Slightly confused over this one, but I'll plough on nonetheless.
Speaking as someone who has found it difficult to maintain friendships since childhood, it actually does take quite a lot to make a friend, in my opinion. There's that initial spark required to pull you both towards each other in the first place, and following that, chemistry is needed to allow the friendship to grow and strengthen. You just have to be able to get each other. Basically.
Being someone's friend asks a lot of me personally too. I have to be willing to be vulnerable around them, support them when they need it, and be generous with my time, TLC and various foodstuffs. No kidding. Especially since, like Joey, Aoife doesn't share food. But hey. Sacrifices.
Right now, I'd prefer to dwell on the friendships that have stood the test of time than those that have crumbled for whatever reason. The friendships I have now in adulthood are entirely different to those from bygone days of youth since, as an adult, friendships are less about convenience and happening to live in the same geographical area as someone and more about common interests, and how you make each other feel. My friends are my friends because they listen to me, make me laugh, include me, and genuinely care about how I am doing. It is my only hope that my friends would describe me in the same way.
Also Happy International Women's Day to all huns worldwide #IWD
Speaking as someone who has found it difficult to maintain friendships since childhood, it actually does take quite a lot to make a friend, in my opinion. There's that initial spark required to pull you both towards each other in the first place, and following that, chemistry is needed to allow the friendship to grow and strengthen. You just have to be able to get each other. Basically.
Being someone's friend asks a lot of me personally too. I have to be willing to be vulnerable around them, support them when they need it, and be generous with my time, TLC and various foodstuffs. No kidding. Especially since, like Joey, Aoife doesn't share food. But hey. Sacrifices.
Right now, I'd prefer to dwell on the friendships that have stood the test of time than those that have crumbled for whatever reason. The friendships I have now in adulthood are entirely different to those from bygone days of youth since, as an adult, friendships are less about convenience and happening to live in the same geographical area as someone and more about common interests, and how you make each other feel. My friends are my friends because they listen to me, make me laugh, include me, and genuinely care about how I am doing. It is my only hope that my friends would describe me in the same way.
Also Happy International Women's Day to all huns worldwide #IWD
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